"The Art Of Reconciliation"

What can we do to make reconcilation real

turn to your bibles

Ge 27:41–45. Now Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing with which his father had blessed him, and Esau said to himself, “The days of mourning for my father are approaching; then I will kill my brother Jacob.” 42 But the words of her elder son Esau were told to Rebekah; so she sent and called her younger son Jacob and said to him, “Your brother Esau is consoling himself by planning to kill you. 43 Now therefore, my son, obey my voice; flee at once to my brother Laban in Haran, 44 and stay with him a while, until your brother’s fury turns away— 45 until your brother’s anger against you turns away, and he forgets what you have done to him; then I will send, and bring you back from there. Why should I lose both of you in one day?”

WE

In this story the sons of issac who where have a conflict

when esua and jacob were concieevd the bible says that we were struggling in the womb

so much that the mother rebeka went to the lord

there are 2 nations in your belly and the older will serve the other

so instead of waiting for what was promsied

issac takes his blessing for himself and he runs away when he is caught

what do you do when there is a conflict

in the marraige, siblings or even friendship

how do you handle yourself when you have offened someone

what happends when you are in the wrong and you know it.

what hapneds alot is usually we find ourseleves in fight, flight or freeze

Too Often in conflict both parites are trying to protect or prove their side or postion instead of trying to come to a solution

both parites are so fast to defend themselves that no one wants to focus of the actualy situation

alot of times we talk about forgiveness as if it is the end all but there is a step futher and thats called reconciliation

there a way to do this

Reconciliation, according to the Bible, involves restoring broken relationships through acknowledgment of wrongdoing, seeking forgiveness, making amends, and extending love and forgiveness.

today the point is to give us a biblical viewpoint of reconcilation

ME

some of us havnt seen what healthy reconconcilation looks like

some of have seen are parents argue , but never talk things out and come up a healthy soliution

Transtion: we all have people in ur lives that we have not worked it out with

sibling

we wernt really taught how to reconcile well

i mean my dad would put us in the same shirt until we could get along

never talked about how we felt and how or how we had been wrong or how the other person has offened

and it worked for a momement but we never really solved our issues it just taught us to avoid each others triggers

Marraige

I thought i could take that same process into marraige

i quickly found that that method wasnt going to work

It listening to each other when we didnt want to

Talk to each other when we were ready

We didnt see breakthrough in this area until we realized that the ulimate goal wasnt to proved that i was right,

The ultimate goal was the restoration of our relationship

Relationships are worth way more than opinons

we must see each other beyound those disagreements , arguments and sometimes violations

there are people who we might never have a relationship again with because they have violated us, lied to us or stolen from us.

It take two people to reconcile

people have to be willing to come togther to work it out

GOD / YOU

The bible gives us really awesome framework for what healthy reconcilation can look like

Acknowledging the Offense

Scripture Reference: Genesis 27:41

“Esau held a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing his father had given him. He said to himself, ‘The days of mourning for my father are near; then I will kill my brother Jacob.’”

Proverbs 28:13 “People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy.

In this story Recognize that Jacob’s deceit led to Esau’s deep hurt and anger.

Acknowledging the offense is the first step towards reconciliation.

Without recognizing the harm caused, genuine reconciliation cannot begin.

EX it wasnt unil i stated admitng what part did

If we dont adknowlege the damage done its very hard to move towards reconciliation

20 years past and gos tells jacob to go back home

Genesis 31:3 “Then the Lord said to Jacob, “Return to the land of your ancestors and to your kindred, and I will be with you.””

Then the LORD said to Jacob, “Go back to the land of your fathers and to your relatives, and I will be with you.”

Jacob become scared and teffied he knows he is wrong

he know theres is a possiblity for punishment

Seek God's Guidance

Scripture Reference: Genesis 32:9-12

“Then Jacob prayed, ‘O God of my father Abraham, God of my father Isaac, Lord, you who said to me, “Go back to your country and your relatives, and I will make you prosper,” I am unworthy of all the kindness and faithfulness you have shown your servant...’”

Point: Before attempting reconciliation, Jacob sought God's guidance and protection.

This shows the importance of involving God in the reconciliation process,

seeking His wisdom,

and preparing our hearts for the challenging journey ahead.

when we seek gods guidiance in a situation we are reminded that we are not and he is

we might not have the best solution but he does

Nor the best plan but he does

James 1:5 “If any of you is lacking in wisdom, ask God, who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly, and it will be given you.”

TRANSISTION jacob sees esua from a far ant he has 400 hundred men

Take Humble Action

Scripture Reference: Genesis 32:13-15

“He spent the night there, and from what he had with him he selected a gift for his brother Esau: two hundred female goats, twenty male goats, two hundred ewes and twenty rams, thirty female camels with their young, forty cows and ten bulls, and twenty female donkeys and ten male donkeys.”

Point: Jacob demonstrated humility by preparing generous gifts for Esau.

Take action to exspress that your are repentant

EX when im in trouble i send gifts

This act of humility and generosity is a tangible way to show remorse and a desire to make amends.

Face the Offended Party

Scripture Reference: Genesis 33:3-4

“He himself went on ahead and bowed down to the ground seven times as he approached his brother. But Esau ran to meet Jacob and embraced him; he threw his arms around his neck and kissed him. And they wept.”

Point: Jacob did not avoid Esau but approached him directly, showing his readiness to reconcile.

Esau’s response of running to meet Jacob with an embrace shows the power of sincere reconciliation.

1 theroy is because they hadnt seen what they looked like

so much time had pasted

they had waisted there lives on this grudge

how many have we waisted on petty arguments

Reconciliation as a Witness to God's Love

Scripture Reference: Romans 12:18

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”

Point:The reconciliation between Jacob and Esau serves as a powerful witness to the importance of living at peace with others.

It reflects God’s love and forgiveness, encouraging others to seek reconciliation in their own relationships.

WE

Conclusion

Reconciliation requires acknowledging the offense,

seeking God's guidance,

taking humble action,

facing the offended party directly

and experiencing mutual restoration.

to reconcile is couter cultural it dosnt make sesnse to the natural mind

Romans 12:16 “Live in harmony with eachother ; do not be proud, to enjoy the company of ordinary people and dont think you know it all.”

what is the holy spirit saying to you

As believers, we are called to be peacemakers, demonstrating God’s love through our actions and relationships.